First things first, to anyone who reads this thing… Effective September 1, I’m going to post twice a week or at least try to for all of you. So, look for that as I post pointed and not so pointed content in the coming months. Now that I’ve said that…
So, lately I’ve had this song stuck in my head. What it is really isn’t important but the message is. Seeing as how much we take it all for granted, it really is something that needs to be addressed.
What really spurned it all forward was that I was having a conversation with a woman on a dating site that which we are both subscribed. She told me a story about how she was mistreated by her exes and that it’s alienated her and all that. [For the record, I believe that physical abuse any relationship is unacceptable from either party.] So, I asked her thoughts on the matter. Before I get into that, I’ll put the cart before the horse. My response illicit some pretty harsh comments from her.
Granted, I’ll take some heat for this and that’s fine but my point is strictly this: I asked her whether or not she deserved what she got. Both good and bad. That’s when I got the onslaught of comments and insults. [She didn’t hurt my feelings one bit, by the way. But, it did go a long way for the sake of this entry.]
Now, a lot of the time we say things, we use them to either hurt or heal someone. Words like regret, mistake, goodbye, hate, and a multitude of others are used to take shots at others. We want them to hurt. We want them to fucking suffer! Conversely, we will use words like joy, blessing, welcomed, and love to bring them healing. We want them to heal. We want them to be made whole!
Personally, anyone can say whatever they want to me or about me. I don’t care an awful lot seeing as it doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. Sticks and stones, right?
But, I’ll BE DAMNED if people flaunt the word deserve around. Talk to me like the consequences of your choices in the past entitle something to you now and there may be an incident. Call me an asshole. Say I’m a piece of shit. Hell, run me through a wood chipper for crying out loud. Do whatever except sit here and tell me that I deserve what I get. That anyone deserves what they get… Especially when they think it’s owed to them because they want it. Hell, I want a blonde haired, blue eyed, and well-endowed Australian woman who has the accent to match. Doesn’t mean that who I am or what I’ve done merits me one. It’d be my luck I settle down with a Canadian woman. As long as she has legs that go up to there, naw’mean fellas???? I digress…
I guess the method to the madness is here is that I’m a firm proponent of the philosophy of “You get what you give.” Nobody owes anyone anything and that work and effort are rewards and rewarded. It chaps my ass to see people, men and women alike, who are critical of their situation because they don’t deserve it. [Now, I’m also a believer that life is indeed fair and that situations regardless of what they may be are a result of many things. None of which stem from entitlement.] Consequences aren’t always favorable, but they are definitely a result of what happens. Not from what we want to happen…
I want the best for people and I’m willing to go as far as they are to get it. If they want it bad enough, I’ll support any action that leads to that goal. But, sitting around waiting for something sounds like a lesson in patience to me. I hope I’m not the only one, either.
Now, those are some words to live by.