A Week Later
“We’re going to stumble, make mistakes, I’m sure, more than a few before we find our footing. But, we’re going to learn from those mistakes. That’s what being human is all about.”
-Scott Bakula as Captain Jonathan Archer
Like they say, the first step in problem-solving is admitting there is one. Throughout the first ten days, I felt like that I did a good job of that. Granted, knowing what is wrong is a far stretch from actually fixing it. But, it’s a start and the first step is always the hardest.
Taking measures to fix those issues isn’t easy. It takes a lot of things to go the way they’re supposed to and there’s a lot of moving parts as well. As individuals, we like to do things ourselves. Autonomy is a big part of being self-sufficient. However, when taking steps to address our own personal issues, it’s best to have some help. Not everybody likes asking for help because it’s a sign of weakness for some of us. Personally, I don’t like asking for it either but it is necessary when personal issues grow beyond the walls of our own personal control.
It isn’t always easy to admit that our own best approach isn’t the best one. It’s only natural to think that we can dig ourselves out of the hole we have dug. I’m guilty of it and there’s no shame in it. However, like most things we do, we only tend to make it worse by trying to fix it ourselves. Not to say that we can’t but it isn’t a good thing to do. Not without instructions, anyway.
We all have our own ideas on how we can make things better for ourselves. We take things out that we think we don’t need or shuffle priorities that allow us more time to develop a higher affinity for the things that have status with us. There’s nothing wrong with having a plan so long as that plan goes a long way to offering a permanent solution. The proverbial Band-Aid won’t do the job because it just covers up the issue instead of fixing it. The funny thing about that is as children, we screamed for Band-Aids. We thought that no matter what was wrong with us, it was all we needed. I guess that’s the mystique of healing, isn’t it? We didn’t pay too much attention to the inner workings as much as the idea of just letting it do its work. I’ve learned that even as adults, it works in much the same way. We’re just more in tune with how things work instead of just letting it work the way it needs to. Personally, I struggle with this because I need to know why things work so I can facilitate how they will.
Truthfully, it’s just been about not making the same mistakes over and over again. It’s hard to learn new things when repeating old actions. Old habits are hard to break, but that’s no real excuse because at that point we choose to commit the same mistakes instead of embracing new opportunities. It’s the recurring theme, isn’t it? Change is an essential process for growth and adapting isn’t always easy. However, it has proven necessary.
Anything that has been proven necessary, at least to me, has proven difficult to obtain and one of the problems I wanted to tackle through all of this was to take advantage of the necessity and to do so properly. Properly is the keyword in the plan to integrate that particular lesson into my daily growth.