“If you can’t take a little bloody nose, maybe you ought to go back home and crawl under your bed. It’s not safe out here. It’s wondrous, with treasures to satiate desires both subtle and gross. But, it’s not for the timid.”
-John de Lancie as Q
Brave new world, isn’t it? I’ll be the first to tell you that it may not necessarily be brave or new, but it is different. Different is good, right? Perhaps. Is change good? Not always. Well, perhaps in retrospect it isn’t always.
Talking and doing are two different things. It’s hard to really take a step out in faith or in confidence when you don’t believe in what you’re doing. I’ve been there. Especially when you get the proverbial bop on the nose for even thinking you need to do something different. What does that mean, you ask? Well, for starters, when you even doubt that something needs to change in the first place. Complacency is a bully. Eventually, you either stand up to it and address that doubt or it continually reinforces your reasoning that you don’t need to do anything.
Here’s the thing about bullies. They’re envious of what you have to offer to the point where they would actively oppose you. That’s how you know you’re on the right track, folks! Boom! WISDOM! But, really you should know that if you feel like you’re being worked against, it’s a good sign that there is something worth pursuing. Nothing worth having would be easy to obtain and anything easy to obtain wasn’t worth having, right? Well, I won’t say that how easy things may be is a reflection of their worth. However, how far you’re willing to go to get it may be.
The mere fact that we place value on certain things means that we know what their potential worth is to us. Different people may place different values on the same things. One of the lessons I’ve learned throughout this whole journey is that knowledge knows no symmetry. That means that knowledge doesn’t always offer understanding and vice versa. For example, just because we know what a woman may be thinking will yield the proper insight into her actions. Though, I would like to think that understanding is symmetrical. If you understand why she’s thinking something, it may lead to understanding how she will act.
It’s a reality check, for sure. If knowledge is power, wisdom delivers opportunity. Think about it. If you know what’s going to happen in a given situation, insight into that situation may grant you an opportunity to use it. Not saying it’s a guarantee, nothing is. However, it does limit the risk and risk is a primary deterrent in most things.
You can’t ever be too prepared. However, you can’t account for every moving part in a situation either. I do believe that knowing what you’re getting into can minimize the potential damage that can be incurred. Not all journeys are healthy and not all journeys will yield anything that you didn’t already have. Courage begins with knowing what battles to fight and knowing which ones you can fight.
I am guilty of doing things just because I could. It didn’t always make me a better person because of it or shed any light on things that I was convinced of needing a second look. However, it did cause me to take a new look at things and revisit things I had gotten over. The truth hurts, sometimes. Consequently, it’s the only way you learn. It can be a kick in the teeth or an unfortunate happenstance. There really isn’t too much you can do about it except recognize the signs and take steps to avoid it. The crying shame of it all is that sometimes no matter what you do, you can’t avoid it. Sometimes, it just HAS to happen.
Part of dealing with the proverbial bully is knowing that you’re going to get hit. It’s inescapable. That’s how bullies work. They tease you, taunt you, and traumatize you to a point where they make you succumb to their will. Getting your butt kicked isn’t pleasant by any stretch but it comes with the territory. There will be times when you feel like giving up. There will be times when you ask why you started in the first place. It’s just a fact of the situation. Not every problem has a peaceful or non-violent solution.
Pain is an unfortunate consequence but it can also be a very valuable teaching tool. Take boxing, for example. If you know that getting punched in the face hurts, the pain it brings can teach you that it isn’t worth getting hit. Simple enough, right?
Brings new meaning to knowing when to duck.